Hentai: A Celebration of Sexuality (NSFW)

Ahoy and welcome to a very special post here on Anime Parlay! I’m The Captain and today we are going THERE! Yes, we’re going to be talking about Hentai. So with that…

Fair Warning: This post is going to be talking about Sex. A lot. Maybe you’re not comfortable with this subject? Maybe you’re at work and can’t really read on? I will be attempting to talk about the subject with the grace of a drunk albatross so take that as you will. Whatever the case, this would be the point I would call it quits. If this is where you get off the tour, thanks for swinging by. For the rest of you readers, you have been warned.

Let’s do it! The second personal post here on Anime Parlay. Let’s jump into sex and all the stuff that comes with it. For me, sexuality, like love, shouldn’t be restrained or chastised. It should be celebrated and understood. I also believe that sexuality is a spectrum of infinite possibilities where everyone can fit in. It doesn’t matter how you identify or who you choose to be intimate with. Be safe, be smart, and enjoy yourself. I know my wife and I do! Yikes.

 

Now why am I doing a post about Hentai? It’s great. Not for the obvious reasons. I would be lying if I said I didn’t learn a few things from reading a few volumes. Hentai challenged my ideas of what a relationship could be and how we interact with those people we pick to be close with. It also taught me WAY more about the female anatomy than my hyper-conservative sex-ed classes growing up. Who knew what a clitoris was? I thought vulva was a car maker. Thanks red voters!

Either way, today I wanted to host a post void of judgement or prejudice. Anime Parlay is a safe place to let your freak flag fly and be proud to be what you’re into. Never be ashamed of who you are or what makes you YOU. You can’t parlay under distress anyway. So let’s set the mood with some baby making music and get into why I am thankful for hentai. Take it away Mr. Winwood!

8 Hours in the Honolulu International Airport

Let’s take this back to 2015. My wife (then girlfriend) and I had only been dating for about a year. We we’re stuck in at the airport on Oahu after finishing a wedding for a friend of mine the day prior. Unfortunately, our rental car was due back way before our flight was taking off. We had to keep ourselves entertained somehow. For me, that meant a mobile game featuring anime-style characters. My wife asked why I played “waifu” games.

I was somewhat off-put to the question, as if it were inquiring that I may be more into a fictional character or something along those lines. That’s not me but if that’s you, you do you! Regardless, I dug a little deeper to get to the root of that question. Just tugging on that string led us down a long road of dialogue that let us express our frustration in past relationships and what our fears were moving forward. At this point in the relationship, we were still in the Honeymoon phase. Still just learning about one another. Those hours will always hold a special place in my heart.

I’m In Favor of Hentai!

As the conversation went on, we approached the original topic at hand. Anime ladies and their absurdly drawn proportions, the over-sexualized drawings, and all the inherent sexism that comes with it. I had never considered that side of things. I’m just a horny male playing to my primitive strengths, I suppose. But I dug a little deeper. What was it that really got me? I tried to express my opinions as such.

  • Hentai as a learning tool – As I mentioned earlier, I had no idea what a vagina looked like or how it even functioned. By the time I lost my virginity, I was kind of along for the ride. I just assumed “Hey, that’s how you sex!” After a long dry spell and lots of hentai, I understood there was so much more to sex than a hump and dump (fuck, that is as crude as sex and be described). It’s sad that I have learned more about how to pleasure a woman from naked anime men and women but you know what? If it works, it works. I can now be an engaged, intimate partner because I figured out how things work downstairs and those REALLY in-depth drawings (you know the ones) helped.
  • Hentai for Sexual Discovery – We all have things we’re into. Kinks. Stuff that gets us going. It’s all good! Through hentai, I was able to explore my sexuality and see what works for me. They have everything you could possibly need to see if you’re into something or not. Luckily, for me, I knew my kink long before hentai. The real kicker is that costumes/outfits are already a thing for real in Hentai so that allowed me to feel like it was okay for me to be into what I was into and not a weirdo. Someone wouldn’t be drawing such lewd outfits on these characters if they also weren’t into it.
  • Hentai for Inspiration in the Bedroom (or Wherever) – I’d be lying if I didn’t see something in a volume of hentai and didn’t take it into the bedroom. From everything I have seen in Hentai, it’s about exploring and trying new things. New positions, new interactions, role playing, it’s all there to be translated over to the meat space.
  • Hentai over Porn (Intercourse Documentaries) – Look, if you’re into intercourse documentaries, do you! I would argue that you’ll find better narratives and themes by diving into a book about sex vice a 5 minute video. I have also found the hentai I have read to have a more feminist spin. Hentai is all about the woman getting the pleasure. It’s about the experience of sex. The implications. The risk. Porn…just doesn’t have the heart. Not all the time.

I tried to use these points to express my opinion to my would-be wife and she was open to it. At risk of embarrassing her, and myself, Hentai ended up working it’s way into our intimate life. If anything, it started a conversation that hasn’t stopped. We have grown closer, been able to express our desires more openly and honest, and needless to say, dreams and fantasies have come true. Anyone who says the spark fades after marriage is not reading enough Hentai. That’s my take on that.

Embracing the Sexualness of it All

Now I know some of you out there have seen a limited amount of Hentai and probably got the “2 Girls, 1 Cup” cut of whatever. I know I saw a very unfortunate enema scene in high school from a hentai enlightened classmate and it really turned me off of Hentai. However, there is also Hentai out there that is way more “vanilla” and offers a sexual experience for those of us who aren’t as liberal with our bodily fluids during sex. I have found these stories to be provoking, heartfelt, and takes on traditional and non-traditional relationships that develop better than most young adult narratives. That’s something!

I also had the chance to see just everyday Japanese folks reading Hentai on a few train rides I took in Tokyo. Not only did I think it was ballsy, I also was astounded by who was reading those books. Young women, young men, older women, and older men (naturally). Not an ounce of shame. Why would you? I wish I had the gumption to look at something so scandalous on public transportation. Still, that “fuck it”-ness is what made me really embrace reading it and just being comfortable with the material.

Even now, my passion for my wife is only growing stronger and I can thank, to some degree, Hentai for teaching me a thing or two. I have no shame about it and neither should you, if you’re a reader/watcher. If I can offer any advice, communicate. My wife and I became much closer just by talking about the inherent sexual nature of hentai or scantly-clad anime characters. Now, we understand each other better than I have ever understood anyone. That’s a fucking great feeling.

So, with that said and on the table, hooray Hentai! If this post ends up being a train-wreck, at least I went down on a sexy sexy post. Thanks for reading, and with an open mind at that. I’d like to think we can be professional anime fans while paying tribute to the more risque things that exist in the vicinity. It’s only fair to look at all sides before making a judgement call. Adios!

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